Self-Care Tip #3Monica Myers
Connection is “the energy created between people that comes from being seen, hear, and valued.” —Brene Brown,
Connection is an integral part of our everyday life.
There are so many types of connection we develop throughout one’s life: a child hood toy, the place we live, a favorite vacation destination, a car, a job, a life style, a certain type of food, the internet, even 4G or WiFi.
However, the most important connections we can make are the human connections. Forming connections is an inherent component of our DNA. The first connection begins within minutes of birth. As a mother holds the new born baby softly stroking the check and whispers words of love into the infant’s ear. With that act the first connection is made. If an infant is in a situation where they do not receive normal love and care, they cannot develop this close bond creating their first connection. This may result in a condition called attachment disorder, affecting the child for the rest of their lives.
Throughout our lives, several human connections are created: our parents, our children, significant others, extended families, friends, co-workers and, as HCPs, our patients. These are some of the most important connection we will make in this life. Human connection can lower anxiety and depression, help us regulate our emotions, lead to higher self-esteem and empathy, and actually improve our immune systems.
But have you ever thought about the most intimate human connection that we can develop? This is the connection we have with ourselves. This is the one and only connection that has been there since the beginning of your life and will be there until the very end. When was the last time you checked in with yourself, or spent time connecting with your thoughts or feelings? Do you ever give yourself permission to just unplug and do something just for you, or to get in touch with your true intentions?
The connection you develop with yourself can be more important than the ones developed with the people in your inner circle of family and friends. If you lose connection with yourself, you can then lose sight of your purpose and direction. This can lead to feelings stress and burnout at work. This disconnect can develop into a barrage of problems and issues related to personal relationships.
The relationship you develop with yourself is your foundation for which everything else in your life is built on. Connecting with yourself may seem selfish, however it is imperative that you spend time with yourself developing a relationship with YOU…learning to be still, connecting, being seen, being heard, and valued!
5 ways to practice self connection
- Identify and observe your thoughts
- Notice the emotions that are linked to those thoughts
- Determine if the results that have been created from your thoughts and feels are your intended results
- Practice self-compassion
- Engage in enjoyable solo activates
Here are three ways to accomplish that goal:
- Notice and name your feelings
- Identify and accept your thoughts and emotions
- Practice self-compassion
Spend time daily quietly being with yourself. Use the meditation time to let go of other people’s perceptions of you, your need to please others or keep yourself safe, and any feeling that you are not okay just as you are
Through Covid, it has become even more apparent the importance of human connection. Studies prove we are created this way to help insure the perpetuation of our species. If we band together and work together we can achieve much more that we can by ourselves.