How to Say No Without GuiltMonica Myers
What runs though your head when the clinic manager or your SP is looking at the schedule and says can I ask you a question? For some of us we might be excited to pick up an overtime shift but you are worried what your spouse will say when you tell them you’ll be gone from home for another day. But for others of us the thought is how can I get out of this, agggg I do not want to work another day, or if I don’t say yes I am going to feel guilty for saying no.
But how can we make a fast and quick decision without any guilt or drama? When was the last time you made a priority list? Physically wrote out and then placed the items on the list in order.
This practice may seem old fashion or juvenile but by doing this we can keep an eye on what is really important to us and will in any situation be able to asses if the decision in line with our true desires.
It is important as we go through life to reassess and adjust our priorities. What was once important may no longer be important. While we were in school studying, getting good grades and preparing to pass the PANRE, were probably on that priority list. But now that we have graduated and are practicing as PA that intense studying probably does not make the top 5. This is why examining your priorities every 6-12 months is important.
I like recommend setting your top 5 priories mostly because I can remember 5 things in my head without having to pull out my list. The next thing to do, after you have your list of 5 priorities listed, is to go back and look at what you did yesterday and how much time you spent doing them. Then compare the 2 lists and see how you did. How much time did you spend looking at Facebook or watching TV. If those activities are not on your list you may want to make some changes. If paying down your student loans is high on your list you may want to pick up that OT shift. But if spending time with your kids or enhancing your relationship with your spouse is high on the list and you have that list readily available in the front of your mind there will be much less drama when the question comes up.
- Collect a list of all your tasks. Pull together everything you could possibly consider…
- Identify urgent vs. important.
- Assess value.
- Assign a number ranking.
- Re-evaluate as often as necessary.